You could be having the best sex of your life with a partner who wows in and out of the bedroom and still let your mind drift to a little fantasy action on the side. Not only is daydreaming about getting down just plain fun, it's also healthy; sex fantasies can help us uncover what we crave between the sheets—and out! Embracing sex fantasies is a way to get better in touch with your own sexuality, and if you're willing, you can communicate your desires to your partner and bring them to life. Discover 25 of the most common sex fantasies women have.
1. Being Dominated
We may call it the 50 Shades of Grey effect now, but let's be honest—many women craved being controlled long before Christian Grey came into our imaginations. Whether you picture your guy tying you to the bed, lightly tapping you with a feathered toy or dripping candle wax all over you, you're in good company. Like, in the millions.
2. Taking the Reigns
For this fantasy, you unleash your inner-dominatrix on a submissive man who's at your beck and call in the bedroom. In this role-reversal, you hold the whip—or handcuffs, hot wax, or battery-operated assistants—and tell your guy just what to do. Power's a rush, right?
3. Doing It in a Romantic or Unusual Location
In fact, a recent study showed this is our gender's No. 1 fantasy—more than 80 percent of us picture ourselves getting down in a candlelit hotel room with ocean views, or just outside that window on that sandy beach. We dream of having sex on kitchen counters—a la Chris Pine and Reese Witherspoon in This Means War—or in the bathtub, all sensual and suds-up like.
4. Having Sex with a Stranger
There can be something thrilling about a no-strings-attached, no-questions-asked rendezvous with a handsome stranger. There's no relationship pressure, no drama—there's just sexual heat radiating between your bodies. Have a partner? Perhaps you could act out this fantasy together, bumping into each other as strangers in the night and silently heading back to one of your bedrooms.
5. Getting It On in Public
While you may never actually whisper to your man, "I need you right now," smack in the middle of a restaurant, that may just be something you fantasize about. (According to the same study, nearly 60 percent of us do!) Maybe you'd love to sneak off into a stairwell, the risk of someone walking up or down on you part of the thrill; perhaps you picture it unfolding in a coat closet. Either way, I think the need plus the risk are what makes this fantasy so popular.
6. Extra Credit from the Sexy Professor
Even if you're college days are behind you, it doesn't hurt to fantasize about a sexy English professor asking you to stay after class to talk about extra credit. In this common sex fantasy the good professor gives you a lot more than an A.
7. Taking a Young Lover
According to that same study, 18 percent of women fantasize about getting it on with some younger than they are. It's commonly acted out, too. Celebs including Jennifer Lopez, Madonna, Kim Catrall, Demi Moore Halle Berry and Drew Barrymore among the list of ladies who have been involved with significantly younger men. Hello, Mrs. Robinson!
9. A Threesome
Whether it's two women and one man, or two men and one women, or three members of the same sex, having a threesome is an extremely popular sexual fantasy for men and women. For many with this fantasy, it's not something they've actually done or plan to do, but something that love exploring within the safety of their own mind.
10. An Orgy
Why stop at three? For some women, it's the more the merrier when it comes to sex fantasies. It's a glorious tangle of hands all over and bodies writhing around, and even if you can't imagine doing it in real life, it can be fun to just pretend.
11. Lesbian Experiences
Girl-on-girl action is a common sex fantasy for women. It's actually the No. 1 query women search for when looking for porn, according to a recent Pornhub study. Whether or not a woman identifies as a lesbian or bisexual is immaterial to the fantasy. According to sex therapist Vanessa Marin, our private sex fantasies don't coincide with our actual desires. "Sometimes fantasizing about something we know we wouldn't do in real life is exactly what makes the fantasy so hot," she explains. Many women, however, are acting out this fantasy, with research suggesting 33 percent of women have had same-sex hookups.
12. Sensual Massages
On the tamer (yet still sexy) side of things, many women imagine a routine massage going from ordinary to extraordinary as the masseur pushes the limits of what's expected.
13. Anal Sex
A recent study surveying the sex habits of more than 3,000 millennials found that 35 percent of women engage in anal sex. But whether or not women have tried anal, they're certainly fantasizing about it.
14. Doin' It in the Great Outdoors
Ah, the outdoors. The fresh air, the wide open skies, the solitude ... it's the perfect setting for a rugged romp with your sweetie far away from prying eyes. (Just don't forget sunscreen and a blanket!)
15. Having an Audience
It's totally normal to have exhibitionist sex fantasies. Imagining a room of people staring at your naked bod appreciatively and wanting you can definitely be a turn-on. For some women, the sex fantasy might start at a members-only sex club, or maybe they take center stage at a strip club. Whatever floats your boat.
16. Getting Wet n' Wild the Shower
The steam, the water, the suds, the nakedness — the shower is a recipe for sex if ever there was one. Plenty of women daydream (and night-dream) about getting dirty while getting clean. And, since shower sex is something most of us have tried, the fantasy might actually be a flashback of a particularly memorable shower.
17. Sex with an Ex
Maybe you miss him or maybe you just miss the sex — either way, there's a sense of familiarity and comfort when it comes to thinking about past lovers. Chances are there were some pretty memorable encounters to look back on. This sex fantasy is totally normal, but obviously one that should stay safely within the confines of your own mind instead of sharing with your new partner!
18. Sex with a Celebrity Crush
Whether it's George Clooney or Ryan Gosling, fantasy sex with a celebrity is definitely a turn-on. You might not be able to meet them in real life, but you can do anything you want with them in your mind ... watch one of their movies to get inspired. (I mean, who didn't have a sex fantasy or two about Leo during the Titanic days?)
19. Blindfold Sex
With sight taken away, your other senses can really take over and let you feel everything more intensely. Blindfold sex is common fantasy and all too easy to act out in real life, just by grabbing the nearest neck tie.
20. Sleeping with Someone of a Different Race or Culture
Maybe you find foreign accents sexy or maybe you're love the idea of a big, black ... you get the idea. Research out of the University of Quebec indicates that 28 percent of women fantasize about having sex outside of their race, and Pornhub data supports it, showing that the No. 3 most trafficked topic is black men.
21. Role Playing
Whether it's a doctor carefully examining your body, a white-clad naval officer whisking you back to your bedroom, or a personal trainer flexing his sex muscles, there are so many role playing sex fantasies that extend beyond the professor/student fantasy we mentioned earlier. From call girls on the prowl to police women letting him off just this once, there are no shortage of sexy fantasies to get lost in (or act out!).
22. Cosplay
A step beyond role playing is cosplay, or costumed sex. Sex cosplay can involve anything from casually dressing up as Hermione Granger from Harry Potter to an all-out recreation of your favorite anime or video game character. Either way, bringing cosplay into the bedroom is a common sex fantasy. It's especially on the rise among millennials, with data suggesting women ages x to x are 214 percent more likely to search for cosplay when looking at porn.
23. Taboo Topics
Again, it's important to stress that fantasy life does not have to align with what we really want. That being said, incest is a common sex fantasy. When it comes to incest, it could be stepdad and daughter, brother and sister, you name it. And chances are you're not fantasizing about your actual relative, but getting off on the idea of doing something so wrong.
24. Forced Sex
Then, there's "forced" sex, which obviously sounds a lot like rape. Studies have shown 90 percent of women have fantasized about this, but it by no means is an indication that women want to be assaulted. Rather, fantasies like this can be a way for a women to avoid guilt and shame over sex, even in a fantasy. For women who have a complicated, anxiety-ridden relationship with sex, having all choice and control taken away is a simple way to avoid responsibility and stress even in a fantasy. It bears repeating: This does not mean a woman wants to be assaulted in real life.
25. Tantric Sex
It's slow, sensual and goes on forever (Sting's wife once said he could go for five hours thanks to practicing tantric sex!) It's the ultimate indulgence where it's just you and your lover. Time stands still and it's more about connection than climax. If that's not fantasy-worthy, we don't know what is.
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